Dream and ambition

Hi this is praneash, I thought of sharing something which I thought very important to all of us.

Dream or ambitions in life, almost every one of us have a dream or ambition or goal in our life, because that’s what we would really want to become. That dream is very important that one should see it to be achieved finally.

When do our dreams get start? When I see a kid and ask him/her what is your ambition in your life, most probable answer would be like, doctor, astronaut, a scientist, IAS officer, police etc.. It’s really nice to hear that these kind of dreams are there in the minds of kids, but when we ask the same kid what’s your dream after his higher secondary education his dream would have reduced to become an engineer or doctor not more than that, only in rare cases we could hear these dream of becoming which I mentioned above. After getting results it would even get reduced to get an admission in any college to get a degree. Then after getting into any degree like engineering or arts which most of us probably doesn’t know why they chose that course, in most of the cases it would be selected by his/her parents or relatives or any other but not him/her, there itself his/her childhood dream becomes just dream itself. And finally their dream becomes just to get a job in the placement, marry and look after their family and settle in life.

So where does this dream of them becoming a pilot or doctor or scientist or sports man goes?? First blame is the parents and society, next is the education system and third is the person himself.

Why to blame the parents and society? The main reason I want to blame parents is that almost 90% of the parents doesn’t know what their child wants to become in future. They just randomly chose a field for their son/daughter because their relative or friend or mentor would have suggested or succeeded in that field and were earning good amount. They do this for our own good I am not blaming them for that, but what good its gonna make when we do something which we don’t love. About society even when that 10% of the parents chose to allow their son/daughter according to their own wish the society starts criticizing them.

The second thing is the education system. At kinder garden days the ambition of the child and their interest in learning would be more and they would be excited, but as years goes on they starts to hate the schools and education the reason is our system is fully based on marks. Get marks you’ll be treated well in both school and home this is what happening in most of the schools and houses. Their interest in learning is getting lost in that itself and the thought of we have to get more marks in order to achieve one of those dreams will itself destroy their ambition. Creating interest in students will make them to learn more.

The third is ourselves, you could say, these things destroyed our dreams and why should we blame us, the thing is determination towards anything will help you achieve your dreams. Even though you lost your track of your dreams somewhere it’s never late to take them back and start working towards it, I see many people who has a dream about becoming something else but gets settled in what they get and not willing to learn or work towards it. One’s dream should not always to become rich or get fame or something like that it should always be to achieve happiness because at the end of the day money or fame won’t be with you but memories of the happiest moments will always be with you. Earn people not money, help everyone even though you know they can’t help you back, look after your parents, friends and family and spend more time with them. Create a dream of changing something in the society like I said above what killed our dreams should not kill our future generations dreams too, teach them, be an example in the society that people trust you. That dream is something more than money, fame or whatever materialistic thing you think is big.

I would like conclude by my thoughts about what a dream should be its not about make money or marry someone u love or getting a job with lakh salary or earn fame. It is after 60 years or more when you think you’ve finished playing your part in your life and when you turn back and look into your life you should not regret a single decision that you’ve made in your life. That’s what I consider as a primary ambition in life, because life is all about one’s happiness without that whatever you achieve won’t matter. When you regret something which afterwards there won't be happiness later, so try to make your every decisions wisely. Money brings you nothing but a temporary happiness, what we need is to do something what we love even when it’s not worth the millions, billions or trillions, it should be worth your happiness it’s more than those millions or billions.

youngsters problem

Hi this is Praneash.V.
When i see my friends or people in my age or below that is so called teenagers and people of late twenties, i could see most of them having many problems to themselves like marks, love, job etc..
Many people are stressed with these things, and many more have these relationship issues both with boys and girls. I always wonder that why people are more stressed even-though they have all the basic requirements that they need to be happy, but they always wanted more.
Even school students are more stressed with marks and these relationship. And the reason is parents who always impose their sons/daughters to score more marks, and into marriages and even work too.

Education is not about marks its about training the mind to think for the problems themselves, like Einstein said "if you judge a fish's talent by climbing a tree it will think itself as a fool for its whole life". This is what happening in our country, as we grow up we always forget what we learn and why did we learn. Parents and teachers should not impose to their kids about getting marks but to teach them life.

We always think about ourselves highly when we get a good marks and a placement in a company, getting married to someone even-though we would have loved or had crush on someone,  have kids and lead a life. Have we ever thought about our purpose of  living in this world, i am sure its not that i said above. and most of them think that is a normal life. Have you ever asked how would we define normal? everything is depends on how we see things and we define our own normal life but what we do now a days is that we see everyone how they are living and if we could live that way then we consider it as a normal life. We always forget the main thing which is happiness and the satisfaction which is more important, the whole life we always live for someone, our parents lived for us, we live for them and our children and this goes on, when will we live for us then? its not that way one should lead a life, i mean all are important to us but we should never lose ourselves in the process of living for others.

And majority of the youngsters now a days have this problem of relationship and they are stressed out because of this and ruining their lives and health. I am not saying that is wrong but moving on is important and considering our other problems in hand its not even an issue to be stressed. The main problem is we don't think always make our lust to take the decision and not love, and all most people need a partner since they feel lonely and they get to start a relationship and then after few days its not working so we leave, where is the love here? there is no love its just lust which made them come together and once the lust is gone its over! 

Love is something which does not come just by seeing someone it is understanding, knowing each other well and accepting their freedom, what happens here is once a guy and a girl starts to love, the guy starts dominating the girl or vice versa, there starts the problem, she/he don't like something that he/she likes and if they does there comes another gap and like this the gap goes on and on and finally its done. 

There are people who don't even have place to stay, food to eat, no peaceful sleep and so on they are living their life and moving on but some people are still like i hate to live because he/she doesn't love me, always  cherish the people who loves you, if you always show care to the person who doesn't care for you and disrespect the one who cares one day when you see they won't be around.

And another thing is the job, most people hate their job and only reason they still see it because of money and family issues. Some people need a job because they want to be independent, some need because their friends are in higher position, some need because they don't have a job. Now a days people are not thinking about the society and to its betterment always think about themselves and money, money is not the thing we need here, we need happiness and we should work towards it, make time for your friends, wherever you go in your life treat them as same as when you were together. Friends are the family we create for ourselves, never leave them in any circumstances and be always available to them. There is no family as good as friends, love them, spend time with them.

caste in our society

Hi this is praneash.v,

I just wanna share an important thing which remains as a disease in our country for over a long period of time, its the Caste system that we follow, and religion is also the same kind of disease that to be abolished from entire roots of our world. There are lot of castes in our country, i don't wanna mention any name of a specific caste, this caste prevails in almost in every part of our country especially in rural areas, its like lower caste people should not talk with the higher caste people and they should not enter the their house or the temple which is their locality.

Where it all started, So this caste system was there for very long time in our country like from the period of kings, its been divided based on the work that people do like brahmin, kshatriya, vaishya and shudra, these are the four classes during those periods. This caste system is wrong in those periods too because only the higher class people could have education, other people can't have education or enter into temple or can't even talk with the higher class people. This is happening now also, the rich becoming richer and the poor becoming poorer, this is what happening in our country.

Why the caste is a danger to our society?

1. When we separate people into these kind of caste like FC,BC,MBC,SC,ST, etc.. there will be discrimination between peoples mind like he is from lower caste we should not talk with him or let him use our things and so on.
2. Caste kills love: Many people love each other but they are separated because of this caste system, like upper caste people will not give their son or daughter to the lower caste or different caste people's son/daughter. Even if they marry against their parents wish they are murdered by their own parents and call it as honor killing. This is been a very sensitive issue to be taken care of killing their own son/daughter for the caste is very big problem, that people are obsessive with this caste. In previous years this has been done in many areas with the knowledge of even the police department but after some years the police become strict and the supreme court has declared it as a crime even though  it didn't stop, still its taking place secretly without the media knowledge. 
3. In Education: In education there are caste based reservation system, this reservation system is good in some ways because if not for this reservation the lower caste people cannot get the education at all, but it also discredits the hard work of the other people. its been a good thing for lower caste people because it helps them to come in the society but why should we discredit them as lower caste people, neglect every basic rights to them and then offer them some good things? 

You may know there are lot of crimes have been done to the people who have been named as the lower caste by the society, people with powers target those people for their needs because no one will ask if anything happens to them, because they are lower caste why should we care? its not our problem or our caste people, so many big people including politicians, policeman, business man's are all taking advantage of that and causing crimes against those people all because of this damn caste. The tribal people are the people who gets affected by this the most, they can't stand on their own because of the crimes committed against them, there are only few rights to them, when we see why these crimes are happening particularly against them all point to one thing, that is caste. If not for the caste they would too have all the rights that a common citizen has in this state. They are also human beings what wrong did they do in-order to be neglected like this?

Many big leaders like Dr.B.R.Ambedkar, E.V.Ramasamy who gave their voice against the caste and religion in our country, not alone them there are many uncredited heroes are there who are giving their voices against caste in our society. The main problem here is the higher caste people are there in the ruling areas and temples and all the big positions in the society and the lower caste people are still doing day jobs for their survival.

Abolish the caste system, give equal rights to all the people, government should give offers and reservation for the development of the people whose income is below average and help in development of those, other than giving reservation on the caste, if we do that all kind of people's life will get better there will be no such thing will occur as rich always becoming richer and poor becoming poorer. Equal rights will make them come inside the community and make a living. This first should come from us than with the government, stop seeing them as a some alien who entered to our world they too are human being like us, they too have heart and feelings, help them to become one of yours, educate your children that there is no caste or religion and stop teaching them not to talk with roadside workers or any labors treat everyone equally, stop seeing them differently then automatically the caste system will get vanish, and there will be no crimes committed against certain set of peoples considering them as minorities, because there is be no majority and minority all are equal.

This is a distant dream of mine hope it becomes true one day and as youngsters we should start changing the society and start educating them.

Thank you.

Arranged marriage in Our society

Hi everyone, this is Praneash.V and this is my first blog on the topic Society.
Why i chose to write about our society is, that is were we live in and our future generations gonna live. First i wanted to write about the one thing that was concerning me is that the concept of the arranged marriage in our country. I write this on my view so don't get offended.

What is arranged marriage?

1. At first the person who wants to get married, his/her parents go to an Astrologer in their community and give his/her astrological details and check when the marriage is gonna happen.
2. Another funny thing is that there are lot of matrimonial websites available for each state people, caste, community and religion. Login in that, fill your details( astrological and personal), kind of person you want. seriously i couldn't understand how it is gonna work . The funny thing is you'll have choices here.
3. After you are ok with the bride the family meeting takes place that is like boy's parents go to the girls house for seeing the girl and likewise, this is like a function that happens only in India, after that girls family will come to boys house.
4. Then they will discuss the marriage when and where to happen and the most important thing is that the dowry which is given by the girls side to boys side after the marriage (hell of a custom).
5. Then the marriage will happen within 3 months max, this is the time for the brides get to know each other, before that they were  just strangers, hilarious right!!!

So this how the arranged marriage are happening in our country. I mean how could someone possibly marry a person whom you've never seen in your life time, never spend time with, never known what his/her character is? People differ in characters, according to psychology there are three different characters Introvert, Extrovert and Ambivert. People first have to know what these characters are if not, it is very difficult to understand the person.

The main reason for arranged marriage is parents aren't ready to accept love marriage, they want their son/daughter to get married to someone in their family or in their caste or religion or state or whatever but not to someone they love. I just can't understand this one thing, that parents in india live for their children's happiness their whole life but when it comes to marriage it should happen according to their wish. They just don't remember this thing that marriage life is something which is important and how they're gonna live happy or sad based on the life partner they chose. They don't get the right to chose their own life partner then what's the point the whole life they lived so far.

Even youngsters these days support the arranged marriage for the sake of their parents, they are not ready to educate their parents or make them understand, the latest survey that conducted displays that people in arranged marriage are less happy compared to the love marriages, of course the divorce rate is less here because divorce is considered as a taboo, you have to live your whole life with a partner you don't like. And one more thing here is that our society is a male dominant one, tradition like this are created as a male chauvinism that male should be dominant over the female. Has it ever occurred to anyone that why in marriages male are elder than the female and not the other way around, its the very reason of male chauvinism. But these days girls even support this thing and still call them feminist, i believe in equality male and female should be at least of same age and should be equally treated, and of course age is not an issue in marriage main thing understanding of the person. In our system of marriage girls are expected to leave their family entirely and live with the boy's family, how it is considered fair, that i don't understand but irony here is almost every girl accept this.

The whole point of marriage has gone wrong here, we have to know each other like best friends,
what are the strengths and weakness of each other, character flaws and pros, positiveness and negativeness, there should be unconditional love between each other, without knowing all these how could you lead a life together. Married a stranger, lead a whole life with a stranger and as a stranger, this how the marriage system is!! People may ask those who did arranged marriage for centuries they are not leading a happy life? of course they are but not all only few, during those days it is not possible in our society for love marriages because love itself is considered as a taboo and very rare cases love marriages happen and that too ends in with lot of opposition from both the families and the society but now it is not like that, now we have evolved we are leading our life more advanced and we still didn't change this one.

This arranged marriage should be stopped and we should start educating people and it is fully my view no offence to anybody
any corrections, comments are welcome,
thank you.