Hi everyone, this is Praneash.V and this is my first blog on the topic Society.
Why i chose to write about our society is, that is were we live in and our future generations gonna live. First i wanted to write about the one thing that was concerning me is that the concept of the arranged marriage in our country. I write this on my view so don't get offended.
What is arranged marriage?
The main reason for arranged marriage is parents aren't ready to accept love marriage, they want their son/daughter to get married to someone in their family or in their caste or religion or state or whatever but not to someone they love. I just can't understand this one thing, that parents in india live for their children's happiness their whole life but when it comes to marriage it should happen according to their wish. They just don't remember this thing that marriage life is something which is important and how they're gonna live happy or sad based on the life partner they chose. They don't get the right to chose their own life partner then what's the point the whole life they lived so far.
Even youngsters these days support the arranged marriage for the sake of their parents, they are not ready to educate their parents or make them understand, the latest survey that conducted displays that people in arranged marriage are less happy compared to the love marriages, of course the divorce rate is less here because divorce is considered as a taboo, you have to live your whole life with a partner you don't like. And one more thing here is that our society is a male dominant one, tradition like this are created as a male chauvinism that male should be dominant over the female. Has it ever occurred to anyone that why in marriages male are elder than the female and not the other way around, its the very reason of male chauvinism. But these days girls even support this thing and still call them feminist, i believe in equality male and female should be at least of same age and should be equally treated, and of course age is not an issue in marriage main thing understanding of the person. In our system of marriage girls are expected to leave their family entirely and live with the boy's family, how it is considered fair, that i don't understand but irony here is almost every girl accept this.
The whole point of marriage has gone wrong here, we have to know each other like best friends,
what are the strengths and weakness of each other, character flaws and pros, positiveness and negativeness, there should be unconditional love between each other, without knowing all these how could you lead a life together. Married a stranger, lead a whole life with a stranger and as a stranger, this how the marriage system is!! People may ask those who did arranged marriage for centuries they are not leading a happy life? of course they are but not all only few, during those days it is not possible in our society for love marriages because love itself is considered as a taboo and very rare cases love marriages happen and that too ends in with lot of opposition from both the families and the society but now it is not like that, now we have evolved we are leading our life more advanced and we still didn't change this one.
This arranged marriage should be stopped and we should start educating people and it is fully my view no offence to anybody
any corrections, comments are welcome,
thank you.
Why i chose to write about our society is, that is were we live in and our future generations gonna live. First i wanted to write about the one thing that was concerning me is that the concept of the arranged marriage in our country. I write this on my view so don't get offended.
What is arranged marriage?
- At first the person who wants to get married, his/her parents go to an Astrologer in their community and give his/her astrological details and check when the marriage is gonna happen.
- Another funny thing is that there are lot of matrimonial websites available for each state people, caste, community and religion. Login in that, fill your details( astrological and personal), kind of person you want. seriously i couldn't understand how it is gonna work . The funny thing is you'll have choices here.
- After you are ok with the bride the family meeting takes place that is like boy's parents go to the girls house for seeing the girl and likewise, this is like a function that happens only in India, after that girls family will come to boys house.
- Then they will discuss the marriage when and where to happen and the most important thing is that the dowry which is given by the girls side to boys side after the marriage (hell of a custom).
- Then the marriage will happen within 3 months max, this is the time for the brides get to know each other, before that they were just strangers, hilarious right!!!
The main reason for arranged marriage is parents aren't ready to accept love marriage, they want their son/daughter to get married to someone in their family or in their caste or religion or state or whatever but not to someone they love. I just can't understand this one thing, that parents in india live for their children's happiness their whole life but when it comes to marriage it should happen according to their wish. They just don't remember this thing that marriage life is something which is important and how they're gonna live happy or sad based on the life partner they chose. They don't get the right to chose their own life partner then what's the point the whole life they lived so far.
Even youngsters these days support the arranged marriage for the sake of their parents, they are not ready to educate their parents or make them understand, the latest survey that conducted displays that people in arranged marriage are less happy compared to the love marriages, of course the divorce rate is less here because divorce is considered as a taboo, you have to live your whole life with a partner you don't like. And one more thing here is that our society is a male dominant one, tradition like this are created as a male chauvinism that male should be dominant over the female. Has it ever occurred to anyone that why in marriages male are elder than the female and not the other way around, its the very reason of male chauvinism. But these days girls even support this thing and still call them feminist, i believe in equality male and female should be at least of same age and should be equally treated, and of course age is not an issue in marriage main thing understanding of the person. In our system of marriage girls are expected to leave their family entirely and live with the boy's family, how it is considered fair, that i don't understand but irony here is almost every girl accept this.
The whole point of marriage has gone wrong here, we have to know each other like best friends,
what are the strengths and weakness of each other, character flaws and pros, positiveness and negativeness, there should be unconditional love between each other, without knowing all these how could you lead a life together. Married a stranger, lead a whole life with a stranger and as a stranger, this how the marriage system is!! People may ask those who did arranged marriage for centuries they are not leading a happy life? of course they are but not all only few, during those days it is not possible in our society for love marriages because love itself is considered as a taboo and very rare cases love marriages happen and that too ends in with lot of opposition from both the families and the society but now it is not like that, now we have evolved we are leading our life more advanced and we still didn't change this one.
This arranged marriage should be stopped and we should start educating people and it is fully my view no offence to anybody
any corrections, comments are welcome,
thank you.
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